“Thomas changed my life forever”
We prayed and waited for Thomas for a very long time. He truly is our miracle from God and he worked a miracle in our lives and lives all around the world. From October 25, 2013, when we found out we were pregnant with Thomas, until May 22, 2014, when he was born, I had a glow about me I can’t explain. The day Thomas was born was one of the best days of my life. It is a day I will never forget.
In Thomas’ short time on Earth, he completely changed my life and the way I look at life. He taught me what really matters. He taught me that I take so much for granted. He taught me what true faith in God is and how to rely completely on Him. Thomas helped me understand that I had to turn him over to God; that he was His not mine. He taught me what true love is; and how to love. I would have taken care of Thomas the rest of my life.
Thomas was my best friend, my little cuddle buddy, my miracle from God. He was the best baby. He was a fighter. He was so strong and he taught me a lot about strength. He inspired me. He made me so proud as I watched him grow and develop. He had a strength I can’t explain. He helped me realize how weak I am.
Thomas taught me to rely fully on God. He helped strengthen my faith. He helped me realize how in love with God I am. He helped me realize how good God is. I prayed in the last six months more than I’ve prayed in my entire life. He helped me realize how awful sin is and what it has done to this world. He helped me think about and pray for other babies and children who are suffering. He made me want to be a better person and serve others for the rest of my life. He taught me to never give up.
I could honestly write a book about Thomas and how he has changed my life. I pray that he will change lives for years to come. I will do my very best to share his story and make sure it isn’t forgotten.
Thomas loved me. We had the greatest mother/son connection. I LOVED to hold him and cuddle him. I loved to kiss him and kiss him and kiss him. I spent all my time with him. I do and will miss caring for him. He touched and blessed my life like no one ever has. I have a hurt that I can’t explain. A piece of me is gone. I love and miss him more than anyone will ever understand. The joy he brought to my life is unexplainable. But, I have hope and peace in knowing that I will see him again one day and what a glorious day that will be!
Dear Thomas, my precious son, my firstborn, my namesake:
What a journey it has been watching you grow and caring for you over the past six months and two weeks! Your mommy and I have prayed for you constantly… even before you were conceived! Although two of your siblings never made it to their birth day, you did, and we thanked God for such a miracle in our lives.
You have taught me so many valuable lessons and traits during your short time on Earth with us, the first being a new kind of love. This is not the love I have for your mommy; or for Meme, Grande and Aunt BB; or even for Jesus. This love was something different. I can’t explain it or even compare it to anything, I just know what an awesome feeling it was and how I miss you now. I am so thankful for getting to experience it and know that this love, along with faith and hope, will keep me going until I get to see you again.
Thank you for teaching me about how valuable time is and how much I took for granted before you arrived. I loved spending time with you and caring for you. While some may consider it a burden, your mommy and I absolutely loved doing whatever you needed to continue your growth, development and happiness/comfort. We were forced to decide what was a true priority in our lives and make changes to our daily routine. I will never go back to the same “time traps” again after what you have revealed to me. Thank you for helping me to understand what truly matters.
On the subject of what truly matters, you most importantly caused your mommy and me to grow closer to God and strengthened our faith. While we may not have attended as many church services or read as many devotions during your life as we had previously, we have most certainly increased our dependence on Christ. You have helped show us that when we are weak, Jesus is His strongest. You showed us how to “suffer well” during your long hospital stay. You blessed us in a way that often times made it not even feel like suffering, which confounded the doctors and nurses at times. I now understand the joy in suffering that I read about in the scriptures.
Thank you again for the love you have shown to mommy and me. You made our family complete and will always be a part of it. I pray God uses your life and death in a mighty way to reach others and draw them nearer to Him. Your life had a purpose, not only in our family’s context, but also to glorify God. I love you and absolutely cannot wait until the day I can hold you in my arms again… and that you will be able to see and hear my voice!
I would like to conclude by sharing how good God has been this previous year. Losing a child is the worst possible thing anyone could ever experience. God is the only reason we get up and continue each day. His strength has truly been amazing and unexplainable. There were times throughout this year however that I didn’t feel God near. During these times Buddy would remind me of the footprints in the sand poem:
One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.
After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.
This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."
He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
- by Mary Stevenson
God is good and we thank Him for His many blessings, especially the six-and-a-half precious months we had with our miracle baby. On the anniversary of Thomas’ passing, we are sad. But even in our sadness we have joy because we know we will see him again. We don’t know when that day will come so until then, we will treasure the sweet memories we have of him and ensure his story is told for generations to come.
“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5
Below is a Celebration of Life video of Thomas. We hope you will take a moment to watch it.